Tuesday, August 4, 2009

A 43 year old looks to join the army, and go to Afghanistan


For those who missed it, July 24 was my 43rd birthday. So the forty three year old referenced in the title to this blog post, is yours truly.

I don't yet know whether I'll be accepted or not, but I've set the wheels in motion. I've been contemplating this decision for some time, for the better part of the past six months. I wasn't even sure that the army would accept a recruit of my age. I knew of a couple of guys who had joined in my age bracket, but thought maybe they had some specialized skill.

A trip to a recruitment centre answered that question quickly enough back in April. A Sergeant there told me I wasn't forty two years old, I was forty two years young. From what I understand the Army has a retirement age of sixty, and recruits joining as enlisted personnel must agree to a minimum three year commitment. So long as a prospective recruit can fulfil that obligation before retirement age, he or she is free to apply.

Of course there's more to it than just applying. There's an aptitude test, a background check, a physical and a medical. I've already passed the aptitude test, pretty much like a lot of IQ exams you see on-line. In fact I scored well enough that were I considering enrolment as an officer, my results would have qualified me. But I'm looking at this as a three year hitch, after which (assuming they take me) I'll decide whether or not to continue.

As for the rest, I'm no Lance Armstrong or anything, but for a 43 year old I'm in decent enough shape I think. That's part of the attraction certainly, I don't imagine there are many work out regimes tougher than basic training. The thought of being lean and of fighting trim does appeal to the testosterone coursing through my veins. The bigger hurdle is probably the medical, I think I'm healthy...but we'll see if there are any hidden medical conditions lurking.

There's more of course.

Some might suggest a guy in his forties, looking to enlist in the military for the first time...that part of the reasoning might have something to do with a 'mid-life crisis'. There is definitely merit to that argument, although instead of a 'crisis' I'd prefer to call it a reassessment.

I realize that my life is pretty much half over right now, and while I may be losing the battle to father time...I'm still in the game. I've always admired professional athletes who manage to hang on, playing past their prime. They're able to compete despite diminished physical skill by using their brains, and at times a bit of trickery. The body still knows what to do, but the mind takes on a greater role in devising strategies to survive against those younger and stronger.

Another aspect is my desire to live a life of significance, to see and experience different things. I've had debates over the past few years about our western way of life, versus the attitudes of those from other cultures. I have a brother who is a teacher, and he's told me what Afghan immigrant students have told him...and has framed his pro-war arguments around their experiences. But second hand accounts don't mean much from where I sit. I prefer to see things first hand, through my own eyes...not through the filter of another. Two people can see the same event, yet draw diametrically opposed conclusions.

Some have probably read my views on the Canadian mission in Afghanistan, and may be surprised by my decision. You shouldn't be.

If there's one thing I've learned in this life, its that very few things are absolute....and as I get older the list of things that are strictly black and white gets smaller and smaller. Experience has a way of nudging one's beliefs in one direction or another. Those who are pro-war have their reasons, as do those who advocate for peace. Is either side right or wrong? Not from where I sit.

Everyone knows the old saw about walking a mile in another's shoes before passing judgement. Well, given the opportunity, I will be walking in the boots of a soldier for at least 3 years.

I am fully aware that this decision could have serious and possibly fatal ramifications, that's a risk I am willing to take. Nothing in this life is guaranteed, but I will take full advantage of the teaching and training the military provides if given the chance, using it to do all I can to ensure my health and survival.

I've been wanting to blog on this for a while now, but held off until I talked with my son about my decision. He's scared for me, and both of us cried...but he understands my reasons and supports my decision. Of course his biggest fear is that I'll be killed, that's my biggest fear too.

I still have some hurdles to clear obvioulsy. I went jogging tonight and managed 3 kms without being seriously winded, but my legs are sore. My cardio seems good for a smoker, thankfully I keep pretty active. I stopped at 15 push ups, that's something I'll build up to over time. I could have managed 20 or 25, but I'll have at least a month to work my way up slowly.

Life is an adventure, that's something we tend to forget as we get older. I'm looking forward and I'm hopeful for the chance to push the envelope and to broaden my experience.

In another year or so, that might be me in the picture at the head of this post. Children deserve to live in peace and security, and with freedom. The ultimate reason for Canada's involvement might be for reasons more geo-political in nature, but our soldiers are striving to improve the lives of ordinary Afghan civilians, that's what I believe.

We'll see. I hope I'm given the chance to judge whether actual experience measures up to my ideals.

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8 comments:

qwen71n said...

That's quite a decision! Good luck!

Graham said...

Love your blog, thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience. I am in a similar situation, I'm 41, and ready to take a left turn in life, after re-assessment, to borrow your term. I too had reservations about going to a CFRC because of age, but I was pleased at the positive feedback I received. I was also surprised with the support from my family too. With a Masters degree and technical skills related to mapping, they seemed interested in me. I have my apt test in week. I'm pretty stoked, but know its a still a road ahead to even get in, let alone survive BMQ, 5am starts, that scares me more than combat! If you get the chance, please update your blog on where you're at! Thanks and good luck!

Anonymous said...

I thought it was just me but I guess there are others out there thinking the same way I am. I am currently in the application process at the age of 39 and am pretty much close to being accepted.

I'm conflicted because I just accepted a job that pays amazingly well but I am not passionate about it at all. Do I leave the profession I know to follow a dream which pays significantly less or follow the money? Hmm.

Anyways, thanks for the blog post.

Anonymous said...

I'm 37, Collage educated and working as a delivery guy. Nothing has ever driven me.. money, fame, success, fancy house or car, a big family. None of that has ever seemed important. I study all our military history, proud of our accomplishments, fascinated and repulsed (at the same time) by War in general. I have thought of joining the forces since I was 12, even went so far as filling out all the forms, and getting my "education record". I don't know what scares me more, the thought of being killed, or the thought of killing. I feel that I should, that this is what I am here to do, serve my country, it's people, and our allies, make the world better, sacrifice of myself, so others have a better life.
Power too you, my friend.. I am inspired, and considering.

Randy Robertson said...

Thank you for your BLOG. I am 42 and have been in the financial industry for over 18 years in one form or another. I have been looking into joining the California National Guard Special Forces. I don't know if I am romanticizing the job or if I am in a mid-life crisis and want a challenge, but it has been what I have been obsessing about. I too worry about killing or being killed. Granted assignments will be limited because it is The Reserves. Then there is the Physical assessment test which is no joke, but I am doing cross-fit and a great deal of training. Thank you for your inspiring story.

Randy

Anonymous said...

Hey man, I found your blog because I'm 34 and thinking about signing up. and I can relate to a lot of what you said. People who know my views on the war and other wars would be very surprised. But I want to be of more service and serve my country. And like you said, you gotta see for yourself. So thanks for the inspiration, and good luck!

Lemmorf said...

At 41, if I don't do it now, I'll never have experienced ever. I too am looking at joining the CF but was hesitant because of my age but your blog has inspired me. I've lived my life but lacked alot of adventure mostly due to work and obligations. Now that the kids are raised and I'm single, I'm really considering the military option. Again, it's now or never and now at my current age, the answer is now.

DeV said...

Hi guys,

Good lip service is easy to convey, however I can speak from experience being a 50yr young soldier :-) So, I hope this info will give you some encouragement and motivation to do the right thing by yourself ;-)

As a guy who has joined and served with two different Army's during my lifetime I strongly recommend you chaps should go ahead with your gut feeling and pursue a Military career, it is very much rewarding and not to be missed.
As such, reflecting back on a missed opportunity is a very tough pill to swallow indeed, so take the chance now and keep in mind that you still have another 50% of your lives to go - embrace it !

I am a current serving Australian Army Digger with the Australian Defense Force Reserve and also an ex British Army squaddy of 14yrs. I left the British Army when I was 30 and after 18yrs of Civi St I returned to the Profession of Arms when I was 48 - I dearly missed the Army during those 18yrs of de-activation. So, in effect I joined the Ozzy Army at an age when many people my age have kids that are approaching their 30's.

I can confirm that the Australian Army selection criterion is fair, but rigid and on par with selection criterion of the Canadian Defense Force. The only difference is we can serve until 65 :-) and only 1 in 60 are successful in gaining entry from all applicants (Canada may be similar ?).
However, joining the Military is very much realistic and definitely not a Pipe Dream or a Mid Life Crisis as some have said to me personally, and proved them wrong - it's about being the best that one can be and there is no greater honor than to serve ones country.

So, what does this mean for you? Well, if you are healthy, fit, have the correct moral fiber and can pass the medicals then you have the correct attributes to get things started and are in essence exactly the material that the Military are looking for. So, if you are serious about pursuing a Military career and wish to have the honor of serving your country in a Strongly Differentiated capacity then go ahead guys and seize that opportunity, your country needs you !

HTH,

Digger DeV...